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Sat 4 Oct 2008
Early this week my sweetheart surprised me by taking me to see Fireproof. He knew how much I wanted to see it. (He is always so very good and kind to me!) We just loved the movie! Words cannot even begin to explain how much I loved the film, how much it encouraged me and spoke to my heart, and how proud I was to see the Gospel presented so clearly and unashamedly on the big screen. It has everything you would want in a good movie, too–action, humor, and romance–with no bad language or questionable scenes. It’s nice to be able to watch a movie and not have to be on pins and needles, afraid of what may show up on the screen. It is also totally awesome to watch a movie filmed in places that I’m very familiar with!
My daughters were also anxiously anticipating seeing Fireproof. They are huge fans of Kirk Cameron and his ministry and movies. I got to take them today, along with my folks and their neighbor. They all loved it and continue to talk about how good a movie it is. I urge you to go see it as soon as you can. I guarantee it will make an impact on your life!
Although I normally do not listen to this style of music, this song from Fireproof really spoke to my heart. I well know all about waiting on God. It seems like much of my life has been waiting on Him.
 Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer. ~Psalms 19:14
Wed 9 Jul 2008
“It takes two to make a marriage, but individually each can do so much to keep it filled with love and peace. Two who have come from different backgrounds, perhaps even lived in worlds apart, become as one. It takes a melting down of wills, a cheerful willingness to go a little more than halfway both in giving in and in planning for the future. The key of diplomacy is very useful in married life. If handled carefully, it will fit the lock of any door that has been bolted shut.”
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“It seems strange to me that marriage is the one position we can take without previous training or preparation. It is the highest and most important job one can hold and yet people rush into it blindly. To know something about each other should be part of the training. How does a girl feel about being a wife? Does she enjoy cooking, cleaning, and keeping house? What kind of mother will she make? A man should want to know his sweetheart’s views on such things. And what kind of father will he be?”
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“A wise woman will sit down and analyze the situation. Is this such a terrible thing her husband is doing? Why does it annoy her so much? Why not just let him be himself and read the paper to his heart’s content? He will love her even more for this freedom. When he is through reading, he will be his attentive, happy self again, perhaps even more so because there is no tension. This is just one of the many pet peeves that ruins so many homes in our day… it’s up to each wife to discover the source of any irritation that lets the little ‘fox’ slip into the home.”
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“The way a marriage starts off is most important. If homes are solid, the nation is solid, and the nations form the whole world. So what we do in our individual home affects the whole world.“ (emphasis added)
—Thyra Ferré Bjorn, The Home Has a Heart
Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer. ~Psalms 19:14
Sat 5 Jul 2008
Afterward I asked her, “Do you think I’m wrong in holding on to my wishes about moving? Surely Kermit should consider my feelings, too.”
Aunt Miriam gazed thoughtfully out the window for a few moments, then turned back to me and said, “I once heard the saying, ‘A man’s home is his castle.’ I believe that is the truth because God planned it that way from the beginning. The man is the head of the home and his wife must fit herself into the blueprint of his dreams. If she doesn’t and insists on having things her way instead of what her husband desires, she is a usurper to the throne, and I don’t believe that usurpers are ever happy.”
… “But surely the wife has a right to her dreams even if they differ from his.”
Aunt Miriam nodded. “You know that Kermit loves you and that if you don’t yield he will give up his own dreams bit by bit and give in to you. But in doing so, both of you will be weakening the foundation of your life together. A wise woman will never let that happen.
… “Tell me then, what is the answer when a husband and a wife want different things.”
Aunt Miriam’s smile was gentle as she replied, “The wife has a castle, too, a wonderful castle in which she reigns as a queen. It is strong and secure from without, but very fragile from within. She is the only one who can tear down that castle, for it is a living thing which must be nurtured and tended lovingly, or it will decay. A wife who is content to rule only within the bounds of her own castle can be gloriously happy. When she steps out of her domain, she is apt to be unhappy. God has given women a power that is noble, queenly, and good if rightly used. She remains in her castle only by accepting her husband’s plan for their life together, and by seeking to nurture and lovingly build her own private castle strong and sure.”
… On the way home it dawned on me what Aunt Miriam meant. The castle was the wife’s love of her husband. His happiness, virtues, faults, dreams, and dislikes must be accepted and hallowed by her love because these things make up her own secret castle. She must tend it lovingly, and in so doing will add a glory to the home of her husband’s choosing.
Suddenly, I made my decision. Kermit should be able to realize his dream of working in the outdoors under the big, blue sky.
Carrie Bender, Forget-Me-Not Lane
Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer. ~Psalms 19:14
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